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Kick FEAR to the Curb NOW with 3 Bravery Tips

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

When I look back on #TBT, sometimes I see pictures of myself when I was very young or in college, and what I see leaves me with mixed feelings.

Have you ever see the look of fear in someone’s eyes? Now picture the look of joy. And now the look of contentment …happiness, if you will. They’re easily recognizable, right?

By the time I was a young adult, fear pretty much ruled my day. I knew it. I could feel it a lot of the time. Finally, at the age of 27, I decided I wasn’t going to let fear rule my life and steal my joy, success, and freedom.

Easier said than done, right? As much as we want to step out of fear, it still keeps its grip on us.

Here are 3 simple tips to help put fear behind you and keep you moving forward.

  1. The first moment you realize you’re afraid, STOP. Take a moment to take breath two deeps breaths and clear your head. Separate yourself from the situation.
  2. Then, ask yourself what is really going on? Looking at the situation as an observer, is there something to truly fear NOW or is this an automated response for you?

    Once you get your answers,

  3. See yourself doing what it is you need to do in a supportive setting. SEE it in your mind. Run the successful scenario like a film through your head a few times until you own it.

Now you’re ready to go back with courage and strength as you’ve already seen yourself successfully moving through the now, non-existent barrier.

I know this works because I’ve been using this method to control my fear for decades. When I look at #TBT, it gives me cause for celebration ~ that young woman has been healed!

Are you being held back by fear? What do you see in your pictures?

You can do it! I believe in YOU!

Money Savvy Woman, Inc. © 2015

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You’ve Been Disinvited…

Seriously?

Seriously?

Hello, my friend! It’s been a while since I’ve connected with you, so I thought today would be just as good as any to tell you that you’ve been disinvited to my party.

I don’t know about you, but the month of March was a real challenge for me! Let’s see, March headliners were, two bouts of flu, a slip and fall, staffing changes at Money Savvy Woman, three big events, planning, more planning, new projects, and a couple new leadership roles. It was the, “All about ME” Show playing here in beautiful Southern California!

But seriously, when things felt the most daunting, I often found myself feeling sorry for myself. This feeling wasn’t a good one. What would start innocently enough as “belly aching” in the morning, by the end of the day had turned into a full-blown pity party.

In the mornings, I limited myself because I was sick or injured. By the evening, the pity morphed into several things: defeat, anger, impatience, whining, and even more pity! I couldn’t get away from it. Pity was enveloping me and twisting me into someone I didn’t want to become.

Taking a stand against my rotten mood is what needed to happen, and no one else could do that but me. If I was really going to kick ol’ sourpuss to the curb, I knew I had to be honest with myself in my assessments of my thoughts and actions.

What I found was I got what I gave my energy to. I knew if I allowed myself to wallow in negativity, I’d only get more and more of it. So I decided to reassess my time, thoughts, and actions, and make some changes.

Here’s what I did while the tempests blew all around me:

  • Stuck to the morning rituals that get me started on the right foot: time with God, centering prayer, meditation, walking, cappuccino, & cereal. What ritual can you do that gives you comfort, peace, and joy?
  • Gave thanks for everything that: provided relief, made me happy, went well, surpassed my expectations, or enabled me to care for myself while I healed, including hubbies, associates, and friends. Gratitude is the key to finding abundance in less.
  • I didn’t take things so seriously and lightened up enough to even laugh at the ridiculousness of a lot of it. Laughter is a known antidote to pain, stress, weariness, sadness, and conflict.
    What can you laugh away?
  • Each day I spent at least 15 minutes being still. God commands us to, “Be still and know that [He] is God.” On days when I do this, my life seems to flow better.
  • Spent true, quality time with my hubby and friends. It was time to relax a bit in the midst of all the storms, and be present in my life and the lives of those who love and support me.

By the time I let myself go and have a two-hour conversation with my sister, complete with my chocolate chai tea to sip on, my rotten mood was on the mend.

The sound of her voice comforted me. To hear her laugh at life’s craziness, made me laugh too. We shared what was working well and what was frustrating us, and our hopes and excitement for the future. She was interested in helping me sort things out in my head when I became overwhelmed with it all. I knew she cared about me and my world, and I could trust her with it. I felt loved.

And just like that, everything was right with my world again.

Oh, don’t get me wrong …everything was still flying around like the Indy 500. But it seemed like it was simply part of a process. I’d detached from the useless emotions that carried me off my course, and focused on what needed to get done despite whatever was happening.

When I put my focus on what truly mattered, the periphery became out of focus and soft. Distractions weren’t as prevalent, and the things I’d been dwelling on earlier disappeared or became manageable. Better outcomes were the results even though nothing had changed but my mindset. I chose to change how I approached the chaos.

So now you know why you’re disinvited. You didn’t want to come to a pity party anyway. There are so many other wonderful places to take your mindset to.

Choose a calm approach to chaos. You can do this. Simply decide to make the changes you need to give yourself a better attitude and commit to that decision. That’s what I did. And if I can do it, believe me, you can too!

God bless you with peace, joy, and love while you continue on your journey.

You can do it! I believe in YOU!

Money Savvy Woman, Inc. © 2015