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Reframe Your Pain RIGHT NOW with One Simple Step

ReframeI don’t have a lot of time, but I just wanted to bang this one out to you as adversity seems to have hit so many recently.

Life isn’t easy. Yeah, I know you already know that. But I just feel compelled to talk to you about it a bit.

To coin the cliché, “it’s what we make it” is so true. So I want to ask you…

What are the most important things to you in your life …the one you’re living right now? You’re REAL life. Is it really your money? Your stuff? (That big screen? The coffee maker (well, in my case, maybe the coffee maker), your clothes, shoes, car?

I don’t think so. I get caught up with the rest of society going for my “goals.” But when I look at the list before me, not many are really stuff. My goal list looks like this:

  • Take a road trip up Pacific Coast Hwy 1 to see our beautiful coast and visit family and friends all the up to Canada
  • Visit my family in Florida, my aunt isn’t getting any younger
  • Visit my family in Wisconsin as I haven’t seen them in 10 years!
  • Go to Oregon to …can you guess? Yeah, visit my cousin and bestie from high school
  • Visit my family in the U.K. and see more sites we missed the last time
  • Visit our friends in Germany …we want to see more of their beautiful country and the links to my heritage
  • Hit the French country side & take some cooking lessons
  • Go to Perugia, Umbria, and Tuscany in Italy …cooking lessons 😀
  • Take a Mediterranean cruise by sailboat of Greece
  • Visit all the islands in the Caribbean

The goals that are needs are:

  • Buy a new car (we need one in the next year or so)
  • Remodel the master bath, it’s sorely in need of some TLC
  • Remodel the kitchen … same thing, it’s dated by 30 years
  • Save for retirement

According to this well-thought out goals list, nothing else matters. When life throws me a curve ball, it’s the memories of time spent with family and friends that gets me through it. In my mind’s eye, I see their love for me, their own survival when the sh*t (just being real) hits the fan, and the encouragement for me to remember, “This too shall pass.”

Life IS what we make it. We need to slow down, take a few deep breaths, look for the miracle or lesson in what’s happening right now, and turn our trials and tribulations into life lessons and wisdom we can apply to ourselves and share if need be. I don’t know about you, but I’m so much happier when I’m learning than when I’m stubbornly waiting for something to end.

Life is an experience …it truly IS what we make it. It’s a journey, adventure, and miraculous thing. We can frame it anyway we like.

In less days than I can count on two hands, I get to visit with an Aunt who turned 90 years old yesterday. How blessed am I to have an aunt that “seasoned.” One who loves me, gets me, and always has love in her heart. When I spoke to her yesterday, she requested that we not get any gifts as the gift she truly wants is to SEE us, to HUG us, and to SPEND TIME with us, “so be prepared to hang out” with her and the 50 other people coming to celebrate with her.

What a gift to me her perspective is. It’s not about stuff, it’s all about LOVE.

So when it comes to money, keep it all in perspective. If you have a little or a lot of it, you still need to make decisions about what to do with it. Keep in mind what truly is important and the fluff will fall away.

Young happy woman converting the word impossible to possible. Positive thinking and success concept

I love you. I pray for you to have all you need and want. If I can help you get better at it, I’m here for you. And, if you’re struggling, let me remind you that…

You’ve got this! You can do it. Just keep what matters most to you in front of you and align your thoughts and actions with that. When things blow apart, reach for what matters most, and find a way to live, love, and learn.

Remember, it’s your money, your rules, your way!

Money Savvy Woman, Inc. © 2016